Wedding Party Etiquette: Asking Your Wedding Party
You said ‘yes’! Now it's time to ask your wedding party!
Photo by Hannah Crabb Photography Ready to propose to your wedding party? You’re in the right spot! We’ve answered your questions about selecting those standing beside you on your wedding day!
When should I ask my bridesmaids and groomsmen?
We know with the excitement of an engagement you’re going to want to ask right away but we highly recommend waiting until you’ve narrowed down your location, guest count, and budget. How many people you have in your wedding party will depend on some of these major decisions. Holding off will also give you time to ask in a more thoughtful, meaningful way!
How many people should we ask? Do we need to have even numbers?
There is no right number! At the end of the day, as long as everyone standing next to you is important that’s all that matters. If you have a long list, try to think about who will be in your life 10+ years from now. If you’re concerned about even numbers, you can have two bridesmaids walk down with one groomsman or have each member walk individually.
How do I choose my Maid of Honor or Best Man without offending anyone?
Choosing your right-hand man or women is not a competition. The person in this role has a lot of responsibility to coordinate the rest of the bridal party. We recommend choosing the most responsible trusted person. If you can’t choose between one or two people, give them both the title and have them share the responsibilities!
Do we need to include siblings in our wedding party?
With your new family, it’s always best to start on the right foot but you are in no way required to include your siblings. There are many other ways to include family members in your wedding without including them in your wedding party. Consider having them serve as an usher! If you want them included in your ceremony, ask them to perform a reading or blessing!
What does our wedding party pay for?
Traditionally, your wedding party is responsible for paying for their own attire, accommodations/travel, and contributing to pre-wedding events. Additional expenses like hair and makeup, wedding day transportation, and personal flowers are typically handled by the bride and groom. Your wedding party knows there is a financial commitment associated with the role. We encourage you to discuss everyone’s budget and expectations up front to avoid any altercations later on.
What other questions do you have about wedding party etiquette?
